Ok, I know I try to keep it real on here and so you are being warned of another rant coming up.
I have a facebook page like most people these days. I post little bits on how I feel and Bible verses and such to try to be positive. Some days it is not worth trying to be positive. Let me explain.
Three days ago I woke up with blisters on my upper and lower gums, which is fairly common among lupus folks. I went to my facebook page and wrote I had a rough night and woke up with these blisters on my gums. Ok, so what is the problem then?
I had two people, close to me, who said I should not post that and they even acted like I was stupid for sharing this information. Yes, it happened again. Well, after much consideration, I have decided not to put new statuses on my facebook page anymore. I will only say cliche things like “Have a great day” from here on out.
I am sick and tired of judgmental people who live to put others down by their words and actions. I do not need it in my life. Before you say I can delete them, be aware that I cannot, because they are family. The fact they are family only makes it hurt more that they would lash out at me for something I thought nothing about posting. I have never tried to be anything but honest when I post. Funny thing is, I had a bunch of likes on the post because I have many other folks who deal with autoimmune things as well and they understand because they live with it too.
Am I copping out by not posting any more “real” statuses? Probably. I realize these folks truly just put others down to try to lift themselves up but I am not going to play the game anymore. By not participating, it eliminates their ability to critique every word or thing I say or write.
Why cannot people just leave others alone? Ridiculing sick people must be a worldwide game to many folks. It is a shame that after all these years of advocating and sharing to help others, I feel compelled to basically shut down my page.
If I try to tell them that is hurt my feelings you know what I would get? More ridicule. Blame. Shame. It is the way they do things. They truly do not care how many people they hurt because they are perfect and so they see no wrong. Yes, I have tried frequently to work this out.Not going to happen. So, I will bow out for awhile and leave my page alone for now. I was not on there much anyway.
Thank you for listening/reading. Do you have folks who do this to you too?