There is a song, by LeeAnn Womack called, “Something Worth Leaving Behind” and it is really thought provoking. I think at some point in our lives we think about what it is that we have to leave behind for the future generations. Some may call it an “a-ha” moment, others just stop and evaluate what their life means. For me, it is extremely personal and not as profound as some, but nonetheless just as important.
I have several things on my “leave behind” list. I caution you, though, that it does not do to get all maudlin while thinking about these things. You need to honestly evaluate what you want others to remember about you when you are gone. It is extremely important that you be honest, because lies or prettying up things only hurt, not help in this. Make a list, then think about how the items rank in importance. I think you will be surprised.
My list is compiled of individual items for each child and grandchild specifically, and then overall items that apply to them all. I have even gone so far as to write my own obituary. What?? You may think that is wrong to do but really, it makes it easier for your family and friends when you pass. It stops the possibility of forgetting someone (in your grief sometimes people are forgotten or overlooked by mistake) in the obit and hurting feelings. It is practical and logical to do it yourself.
In starting a leave behind letter, it is essential to think about all the things you need to say. These letters can become very special to those who get them so it is wise to always try to put it in the way you would talk to them if you were sitting at a table with them. It helps me to visualize this setting and it helps me to put my thoughts in order. Writing an outline can help so it is more cohesive and not so randomly put. Unless you are a random person, that is.
I am also in the process of creating scrapbooks for those in my life so they can have pictorial evidence of the feelings I have for them and they can also remember the good times we have had! I know not all people scrapbook, but I do so this is an outlet that helps me.
Now that I have done this, I feel better. However, I actually did this several years ago and now have more family (grandchildren) than I did when I did the originals so I am thinking about rewriting and including the new ones as well. I want each of them to know how important they are to me and my life. I know what I want them to know and since I have done this before, I can use the outlines of the previous ones and bring it into the present.
I know, it seems sad and yes, there will be tears, but seriously, wouldn’t you love to have something like this from a friend or family member you have lost in death? How precious would it be to you? This is much more personal than a will is, and yet can supplement the legalities and let your family/friends know exactly how you felt about them. This can be especially true if yoru death should be an accidnetal or unexpected death. How comforting for those you leave behind to know you were thnking of them and their futures BEFORE it happened.
So, that is my (not so) profound blog post for today. Have a great day everyone and hope it is pain free and full of love and life!