Hello once again! I hope this post finds you in good health! I know I am up and down. I called this post Winter? Because here in Eastern Kentucky we have had two or three light dustings of snow and that is it! How weird is that? It has not been cold either! I keep expecting a blizzard because it has been too mild. Now, on to life…

First, big news. I mean really BIG news! I got my eye surgery finally! I went to UK eye clinic and finally I can see!!! I was legally blind in my right eye and had no idea my “good,” left eye was not so good either. So they got my right eye going again and it sure has been great to see again. My cataract developed quickly because of Prednisone. That is what my opthalmologist told me. My left eye also has a cataract, but not the kind that was in my right eye. Thank goodness! I may have it removed soon since it was not a bad experience. I follow up with a retinal specialist soon as well. Since I have been on plaquenil for so long, like 20 years off and on, I have to see the retina specialist to insure that my retinas are not damaged from the long term usage. Who knew?

Next on my plate are my knees. One at a time. I am struggling most days with walking. I bump into walls, fall down and feel very unsteady. My knees, both of them, are prone to giving out at the most inopportune times! However, thank goodness, they only give out one at a time. I am always finding new bruises. This is why the knees are next in line. One issue at a time right now.

As for husband and his alcoholism, he is sober and attending AA every evening. He has a sponsor too, which is a big change this time around. I am hopeful, but also realist, that he can maintain this sobriety. So far so good. One day at a time!

Life is always moving ahead. My oldest grandchild graduated from high school last year and came down and stayed with us for a month. It was a hoot! We had so much fun and we spoiled her pretty good too. She slept in and had her own TV in her room. She loved it! She has three younger sisters, ages 16, 14, and 12 plus a new baby brother who is nine months old. Time alone, in a room of her own, was the thing she needed for a bit. It was great having her here and we looked into the nearby Berea College for the classes she is interested in. She is quite an artist and in different mediums too! I know, I brag but hey, I am granny! That’s my job!

Finally, I am working on my craft area and trying to get it organized. It is not easy. I hope I can get it situated so I can get back to crafting. It helps me relax and I need to relax! Do you craft? What do you do?

That’s it for me for now. Take it easy and stay well! Gentle hugs!!!


Ah,finding your true worth?


This is a bit off topic but I feel compelled to write it nevertheless. I have learned to accept the challenges of living with several auto immune diseases and other illnesses.I help my kids and grandkids when I can, and have taken care of my mother and mother-in-law as well. I have moved states, been a walk participant, been in drug trials and seriously given a lot of myself to others. I neglected one person though, myself.

I am in therapy now, to help me get myself back. I have buried myself taking care of everything and everyone around me to the detriment of me. I am now in a major flare, worse than in recent history, and I am finding it hard to adjust to taking care of me. The first step is to get my cataracts taken care of so I can drive at night again. The next thing is to see about these knees getting replaced. I have a list of items needing taken care of but I had been so absorbed in the daily drama and task of taking care of my husband, who is an end stage alcoholic, and his many hospital ER visits, admissions, ICU stays and rehab facilities located all over this state. Transporting him from pillar to post only to have him return home and begin drinking again. It is not pretty around here.

I allowed myself to be used. I ALLOWED myself to be used and neglected taking care of me during this chaos and drama laden time of the last year. As I stated, I am in therapy right now. My therapist is very encouraging and is helping me to see what my role in this is. She is also helping me to see that I do not have to do anything I do not want to. I can stop being used by others by respecting myself. Tall order. I feel worthless most days.

I can see clearly now how the verbal abuse, the mental abuse and the emotional abuse have taken a toll on my body and mind. I am seriously ill right now. My eyes are open though to the manipulations and techniques being used on me. I have to take responsibility for allowing myself to be manipulated, but I am not taking it anymore. As a result, I have an end game or plan in progress that gives me a sense of security. I am free to follow what I need to do to be healthy physically, mentally and emotionally. I am learning how to love myself. It is really empowering to do just that.

I have been living in a self centered and narcissistic home for a long time now. I have been treated really awful, and made to feel like it is all my fault. If it is not his way, then it is no way. A drunken dictator who is to be obeyed and how dare I have a thought about anything other than him? It is not pretty.

I am writing this because I need to put it out there. It validates my feelings and the fact that my eyes are wide open now. I am still here. However, I have an exit strategy prepared and ready to implement if no changes are made in MY time frame, not his. I doubt he will change, so it may well be I will be embarking on a new, single, adventure. Who knows? Am I afraid he will read this? Nope  You see, he is only interested in himself and not any thing I may do. The time is coming, and I plan on living the best I can until then. Wish me luck!

I hope you all are healthy and happy! I hope to be soon!


Remission Answer


I last posted that I might be in remission, or at least working on one. I was hopeful, because I was finally getting things done with little pain. I walked two days in a row, half a mile each day. I was busy starting my seeds for my garden. I was making plans for doing things this summer with all my energy and feeling so good. yeah, I was so happy and getting excited about possible remission. Plans to live and enjoy these pain lowered days. Of course, lupus is unpredictable.

The answer to remission is that no, I had a brief glimpse of feeling “normal” and now I am back to painful living with lupus. I think the cold front that came through didn’t help any either. Ouch! My joints are screaming in pain right now. It is hard to walk. It is that all over pain and fatigue with it. For the uninitiated, it is like having the flu but worse because my joints and painful to the touch and it is hard to move.

I at least got most of the spring cleaning done and can relax a bit about that. I got several things done. It feels good. I wish my body would cooperate with me but lupus doesn’t play fair. Oh well, I am alive and kicking at least. Have any of you had this situation happen to you? I hope you are all pain free and living life to its fullest!



Hello! Well, I am excited but trying to remain controlled. You see, I am actually feeling better, much better than I have for some time. I am not sure why the change but I will take it. Remission is a word all of us with lupus want to hear. To be fair, I am hoping it is remission but the doctors say I have to be feeling good for six months before we can actually call it remission. So for now, let’s just say I feel good.

When I say I feel good, I mean that yes, there is pain, but the pain is minimal. It does worsen at times but I am not a slave to the pain right now. I have been to the rheumatologist and my labs are great, with the exceptions being my SED rate and ANA.  My doctor wrote me a prescription for prednisone and wants me to take low levels for a bit. I took three days worth and stopped because I felt better before I took it. It is good to have around in case of flare up though so I am armed and ready should a flare decide to come a calling.

Since my labs were pretty good, the doctor decided that I do not need the benlysta infusions for now. I was on the drug trials for that drug and it really did help me when I was taking it. I was on the trial of injecting myself in my stomach. It was not difficult and it did help so I am glad the infusions are there should I need them.

For those who are not sure what a lupus remission is, here is some information I culled from

Understanding lupus

How is remission in lupus defined?

There is no formal, approved definition for lupus remission. However, the word “remission” is sometimes used to describe certain situations. One situation is a person who presents with a disorder which appears to be systemic features of lupus but after a while, their symptoms, physical exam findings, and blood abnormalities go back to normal and stay that way, even after any prescribed medications are stopped. Some doctors might feel that the person did not truly have lupus, but probably had something else causing lupus-like problems (which can be seen with certain infections, such as parvovirus infection.)

The more common usage of the term “remission” would be to be “in remission on medications, or quiescent (quiet).”” This would mean that the person with lupus is taking Plaquenil® (hydroxychloroquine) and/or other medications and is doing well with no evidence of lupus manifestations such as arthritis, rash, kidney involvement, blood cell count problems, etc. This is the goal for most people with lupus, but is not always possible.

When a person is in remission while taking medications, doctors always try to taper steroids down to the lowest possible dose, and, if possible, to stop them. Most people are counseled to keep taking Plaquenil long after the disease is quiet. Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medicines such as ibuprofen, Celebrex®, naproxen (Naprosyn®), etc. should be stopped if there is no pain. Immunosuppressant medicines (such as methotrexate or Imuran®) can sometimes be decreased little by little, but this all depends upon the exact history of the individual’s disease.

Medically reviewed on July 18, 2013

So there you have it. Yes, I am still on my medications. I am taking my plaquenil daily. I have prednisone for any bumps in the road. I am taking Tylenol daily still for my knee. Otherwise, no chemo drugs (Yay!) and all is quiet right now in my body. I hope it remains this way because I have so many things I want to do and have been unable to do. Who knows? Remission? Maybe. Possibly. Hopefully. We will see.

On another topic, do any of you garden? This spring I am planting my garden and I have already started some seeds. I get my bean and tomato seeds from a neat place that has non GMO heirloom seeds from the Appalachia regions. They are truly great producers of veggies and taste so much better than those modified seeds do. The place I get the from is in Kentucky. It is called I highly recommend their seeds and they show you also how to save your own seeds year after year. The mans name is Bill Best and he will talk to you and help you  in any way he can to preserve the seeds that are nutrient rich and much tastier than anything on the market.

If you garden how do you preserve your foods? I dehydrate and can plus I do freeze a little. I would much rather have my food shelf stable in case of electricity going out. I find pleasure in growing the garden and preserving it so we have good foods that I grew and we can have them in winter. I love the whole process. It makes me feel good. Plus, I love to cook so it really is enjoyable. I know what is in the food, any additives, and it is much healthier than buying the food at the store.

Hope you are all feeling well and that the warm weather lifts your spirits!

Why Are People So Insensitive?


Hi everyone…sorry I have been gone for a bit but life has been extremely full lately. I apologize for the absence and wish to say hello to all the new folks out there in lupus land who have joined our little blog. That being said, on to the topic of the day.

Why are people so insensitive?

Just two days ago I had a new thing crop up in my journey with lupus and life in general. I have developed high blood pressure and my doctor decided I need medication to control it. No biggie, right? Wrong. You see, despite having a strong genetic back ground of heart disease, and actually having electrical issues resulting in a coronary ablation, I have always had good and low heart rate and blood pressure. It was the one thing I could hold on to and say that at least I was good on my heart. Until now, that is.

I know many people have issues with this. I get that. As a matter of fact, I only told a few people that this happened to come to light. My so-called trusted circle. The response?

“What DON’T you have?”

Have you ever heard this? I have from several people in my life. I know people say things not meaning to hurt you. I get that people do not understand the complexities of our disease(s). They do not understand how sometimes we develop overlapping diseases along with lupus. I get that. However, I find this is one of the things that hurts me the most. People ask you about your issues specifically and when you are honest, they ask you something like the above comment. It hurts.

I have decided to really stop educating others about this disease anymore with the exception of this blog. My friends and family will not hear any more about what is happening in my healthcare life. They ask, but they really do not want to know. Most of my family seem to think I am just lazy and want attention. Well, so be it. My resolution is to live my life, do what I have to do to stay living, and pretend all is well when I am asked how I am doing.

Yes, I know, I seem a bit sensitive. It is just that people say these things and they seriously hurt me. I am astonished at the audacity in the manner in which it is said even. Like I picked out a new thing to have wrong with me. Ok, well, I feel a bit better getting it off my chest. Have any of you dealt with people who are insensitive and even cruel in their comments to you?

Simple Things


A lot of people overlook the simple things, the small things, each day. They are focused on getting that new house, getting that pay raise, looking far down the road. That’s not bad to do but in the hustle and bustle of working towards those goals, they overlook the simple blessings all around them. My disease has forced me to slow down, way down. It was a struggle at first to figure out how to get through each day. However, by this mandated slowing down, I found all those simple things, those everyday blessings that I had overlooked before. It’s amazing how you can see Gods hand in every little thing when you pay attention to the little things, the simple things. My disease may not be pretty but it has opened my eyes to all sorts of beauty each day in my life. For that, I’m grateful, because it has shown me all the things that really matter. Friendship, love, family, faith and life are just a few of these things. I ask you to slow down a bit and look around at all your blessings. You will be amazed! Trust me, I know and try to daily find things to be thankful for, to keep my focus on these simple things that truly are the BIG things! Have a great day!