Friends are the family we pick for ourselves. I truly believe that. My family is fairly large, yet on the surface, it is a superficial type of friendship that I have with them. Yes, we share a history, but truthfully, I am not close with them at all. The exception to that is my children. My sisters and I have lived our lives on our own, mostly, and our family groups have left the bigger group to form smaller circles of immediate family only. Shoot, one of my sisters has isolated herself almost completely.
My family put the fun in dysfunctional. It really is sad that I do not have relationships with my sisters but I do have many tight, sincere relationships with those I call sister. I have a beautiful bouquet of friends that are my family. They are my confidants, my loyal and trusted pals who share with me as I do with them. They do not judge. They have the option of leaving yet they stay and support. The support goes both ways.
There is a song called ,”You find out who your friends are” and it is true. I am fortunate enough to know who my friends are. As many of us with autoimmune diseases know, once we got sick we saw many “friends” leave, unable to process the changes in our lives. It happens.
I feel like it enhances our lives even if it is painful to find out who are the superficial friends especially if you were a true friend to them when they needed you. The folks who walk out of our lives in our time of need do us a favor. They show us who the true friends are and by doing that, they have given us a gift.
True friends are blessings. I have several and I totally know they are there for me as I am for them. I do not take them for granted. I love them, they are the family I chose to surround myself with. They are the ones who I know will be there if I need them. I am so thankful to have them in my life. I hope you have those who are in your life as well.